As human beings, we seem to have negative tendencies and being happy or in a good mood constantly is quite demanding. But not impossible. I would be the first one to admit that when I am “down” I’m really down! So what’s the solution? How can I make sure the I maintain my positive outlook even in a “gray” day? I can see that my day is as good as I feel, so I definitely want to feel even better so my day will get even better.
I am sure you’ve experienced times when you wish you could throw your alarm clock out the window. You do not feel like getting up and you definitely do not feel like going to work. You drag yourself off the warm, cozy bed and slowly start getting ready for another boring day. Your mood gets even worse when you realize you are not going to have enough time to get your coffee and have to rush in. Great! Today will suck, right? Well, of course, it will because that is all you can think of and that is what you will get.
Remember your thoughts create your reality (and trust me that is so very true; just try to be aware one day of the thoughts you have – positive or negative- and you will see how the more of either one you have, the more your day will change to fit those thoughts). If you don’t want to believe me play a little game and observe the people around you. Observe what their mood is and then see how their day is. Ask people about their day and based on their mood you will see events that match that. You may say “ Yes but someone can be in a good mood and something bad happened and changed their mood“. Then I ask you why let exterior events impact how you feel? Nothing in the world is perfect and good and bad coexist in the same place. Negative and positive are both real but what do you choose? There are tragic events out there that will definitely have an impact on us as we are only human but if death or a life-threatening event is not happening why can’t we be able to stay positive more often?
My solution: laughter. Nothing beats a “gray” mood like a good laugh. Wikipedia tells us that “children are known to laugh a great deal more than adults: an average baby laughs around 300 times a day compared to an average adult, who laughs only around 20 times a day; however this can depend on a person’s personality. According to some studies, the onset of adulthood causes a gradual change characterized by increased seriousness and a diminished engagement in laughter.” Even with the personality variance, I do not think I have seen anyone get even close to laughing 300 times a day. Why do you think children laugh and can laugh that much? Why do you think the older we get the more serious we get and the less we laugh? Is it maybe because we let our fears take over us more? Maybe we let worries control our thoughts more than we let hope and faith. Mark Twain said ” I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened”.
I believe that as adults we forget to enjoy the little things in life and we cling to things that have no benefit or bring us no good. We let our thoughts be filled with worries and fears and let that control our live. Think of what Mark Twain said and you will see the truth in that. We create scenarios in our mind and we focus on some so much that we make then happen. So stop, take a deep breath, meditate and look around. Things are not as bad as you think, there are a lot of great things that you should be grateful for and laugh. Laugh Laugh Laugh. Live Laugh Love. Watch a funny video, watch a baby laughing (that is the most blissful laughter you will hear), do something funny, be silly, laugh at yourself, laugh because life will reward you back with more things to be happy for. Stay positive, nurture the child inside you, nurture your soul and keep laughing.